Biblical women are a dying breed. At least, it seems this way. Feminism, mixed with poststructuralism are the ideas of the day, and these ideas are spreading like wildfire. Without a resurgence of Christ-exalting biblical womanhood, those ideas will be here to stay for generations to come. We cannot allow these ideas to triumph. For the sake of our children, and our children’s children. We fight those lies with truth. We fight evil with good. We triumph the ideas of the day, with the realities of Scripture. Therefore, let us return to Him, ladies. Let us return to His Word.
Who will our daughters look to in this current generation? Will they look up to those that the media portrays as heroes? Or will we point them to those who truly honor Christ? The world will point our daughters to Jezebel’s, so we must point them to women of the Word of God.
Like Elisabeth Elliot, who’s husband, Jim Elliot was martyred on the mission field by a native tribe in eastern Ecuador. Besides Elisabeth’s in-your-face calls to sacrificial living for the Lord Jesus Christ, what would she be known for? Forgiving the natives for killing her husband. Not only that, she lived with them for two years, with her daughter, and taught them about the person of Jesus Christ. A truly heroic woman of the faith.
Or Susannah Spurgeon, Charles Spurgeon’s wife. Many know Charles Spurgeon as the “Prince of Preachers,” but many don’t know that behind this powerhouse preacher was a princess, and even more than that, a queen. Susannah was sick most of her adult life, but that didn’t stop her from supporting her husband. Most of her time was spent publishing her husband’s books, and supplying these books to pastors and preachers who were too poor to buy them. All the while training her two twin boys up in the ways of the Lord. These women embodied what it means to be Christ-centered, Scripture-oriented, submissive, and successful women of God.
What does the Bible say about being a Godly woman?
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” -Ephesians 5:22
Submission is not weakness, submission is strength. Many women balk at the idea of submission, but I believe that’s because we have wrong ideas about what it means. It does not mean we are of less value. It does not mean that we are beneath our husbands. It does not mean we are less intelligent than our husbands (This one’s obvious). It does not mean we are inferior. On the contrary, we may far exceed our husbands in some of these areas, but that does not negate Scriptures call for us to submit to their leadership.
What kind of women should we be, if we submit, and obey the Scriptures? John Piper says it this way,
A woman of God has, “Unshakeable hope in God. Courage and fearlessness in the face of any future. Quiet tranquility of soul. Humble submission to her husband’s leadership. It is a great sadness that in our modern society—even in the church— the different and complementary roles of biblical headship for the husband and biblical submission for the wife are despised or simply passed over. Some people just write them off as sub-Christian cultural leftovers from the first century. Others distort and misuse them — I actually sat in my office once with a husband who believed that submission meant his wife should not go from one room to the other in the house without asking his permission. That kind of pathological distortion makes it easier to dispense with texts like these in the Bible.”
Wrong ideas about the roles of men and women plague the church today. Which is why it’s so important to define Biblically what the roles of men and women are. Simply put, equal value, separate roles. The man is called to lead, protect, and provide. Women are called to be a submissive, respectful, encouraging, companion for her husband. It is only in these roles that we flourish. This is why the call to fulfill our God-given duties are not an old form of oppression, and despair, but the biblical path to freedom and joy.
Aside from submissive, what does the Bible call women to be?
1. Fearless: She doesn’t fear the future, and she doesn’t fear the culture.
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” —Proverbs 31:25
A biblical woman has no fear of the future. What is there to fear about the future, when you serve the One who holds the future? Women of God are fearless, unshakeable, courageous, and bold. Fearless in the face of a culture who would impose ungodly roles upon her. She stands fearlessly on the Word of God. The culture doesn’t dictate who she is, and cannot shame her for loving the Bible. The culture would try to make her a pastor, or a preacher, but she knows what the Word says. She is unashamed of what the Word says. She says what the Word says,
“Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.” —1 Timothy 2:11-12
2. Knowledgeable: Shallow theology creates shallow women.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” —Proverbs 31:26
Women of God are women of the Word of God. She consumes it. She lives it. She loves it. It is her treasure, and source of all wisdom. Shallow theology creates shallow women. She swims deeply, and is never content in the shallow end. When you talk with her, you know He walks with her. When you sit with her, you know she’s been sitting with Him. She is not Martha, concerned with trivial things, she is Mary, sitting at the feet of her Lord. She has chosen the good portion. Much like C.S. Lewis said,
“A woman’s heart should be so close to God that man should have to chase Him to find her.”
3. Fears the Lord: The woman who fears the Lord, has no fear of anything, or anyone else.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” —Proverbs 31:30
Beauty cannot get you into heaven. It won’t be those with the prettiest eyes, nails, hair, or body who enter the Kingdom of Heaven. It will be those who have the fear of the Lord in their heart. Heaven will be filled with women who fear the Lord, and hell will be filled with women who trusted their charm and their beauty.
The woman who trembles before the Lord daily, doesn’t tremble when things are difficult. The woman who fears God, has no fear of anyone else. She approaches Him, knowing her weakness, knowing His strength. She approaches Him, knowing her sinfulness, and His holiness. She loves His grace, but does not seek to abuse it. She who has died to sin, can no longer live in it.
I believe this quote from John MacArthur personifies the role of a biblical woman:
“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.”
We are not the head, nor are we under the feet. We do well under the arm of our husband, near the heart of our husband. With our feet in unison pursuing the King.